Love

Brilliant story – and if she accepts, she can’t say you won’t be in it for the long haul.

Are you as resilient (aka stubborn ) about everything else in your life, or is she just a shining example of persistence??

Good luck. ??Don’t suppose we’ll be seeing much of you on here for the next 7 days then!!????

Go for it Dan! Love is love at any age, I am still bonkers about my missus after 30 years. We met and got together at 41 and 42, married within months. All my previous relationships went TU: some my fault, others well, less said and all that. We made a decision, based upon previous experiences, to share everything but give each other space. Then we made another: to agree to disagree. EG: my Gert voted Leave, I voted Remain, but we didn’t discuss it, it has nothing to do with our marriage and AFAIK she has not changed that choice.

We met as a result of Gert placing an Ad in a local Free paper: “Lady, 41, wishes to meet gentleman.” Just that, nothing else. Among all the flowery self-descriptions, it stood out. “This lass is not messing about,” I thought “she is a straight one.” Turns out that after her divorce, with two kids to bring up alone, that was all the words she could afford. When she admitted that, I knew there was something about her. We fell in love within days, after the first date in July 23rd 1988 we married on August 5th, 1989. This year we are on a river cruise for our 30th. We have endured both having disabilities and my cancers, her increasingly painful osteo arthritis and horrible marriage break ups for both son and daughter, to name just a few problems over the years. We are stronger for all that.

I wish you the very best of luck mate, and ultimate happiness. Go with the flow!

Bob, your first date HAD to be lucky, it was my birthday. Somebody has to have the good luck, but at least I had a Ducati 750 production racer at that time, A “Laguna Seca”.

Les.

Go for it.

Ed P wrote:

Good luck Dan! One lesson from life that I have had Is that women love taking about themselves and get bored rather quickly if it comes around to you.

Does not happen like that in our house, Ed. A long time ago, I used to ask my missus why she didn’t talk much about herself. She said that, apart from her divorce and the events leading up to it, she had a sheltered life. She loves to ask me about my own life and says that I have had such interesting times, she likes me to talk about it. Well, anyone who knows me, will tell you that I can talk for England when I get started!

My own SWMBO does have some traits that I find less than appealing. For instance, we will both listen to a call on speaker, after which at some point, she will tell me what the caller said, that we both heard: sometimes a week or more after the conversation, sometimes a few minutes after. Secondly, her explanations of anything tend to take many times longer than they should, due to her sailing off at a tangent into totally unconnected people and events. Much like your own experiences, I believe:

” If I get SWMBO talking about (say) a shopping trip, it will randomly flip threads and I can never understand the linkage until much later. e.g. Shopping, she will suddenly flip to a Manc friend’s son. ”

There is often a significant pause in her words, as her thoughts attempt to rearrange themselves into some sort of order connected to the original topic. I can almost hear the gears grinding. I long ago took my dad’s advice: “Develop a Poker Face son, show no emotion or expression. They take that as agreement with whatever they are saying. Never argue, it only invites trouble.”

I also developed my own way of dealing with female disagreement, adopted from my big brother. He used to say, “If you have a plan or want to do something or go somewhere, mention it to Middle Brother, mam’s favourite. He will throw it back to mam and she will adopt it immediately as a Good Idea. He will think he has done Something Good in mam’s eyes and you get what you want.” Very sneaky intelligent man, my big bro. I use that same plan now with my daughter, who will tell her mother whatever it is I am after, and I get back from SWMBO “Guess what our P____ says?” I have begun to recruit my 13 yo gdaughter into the same effort: she is quite sneaky intelligent and has sneakier better ways of addressing grandma. I love my girls….

Yesterday was the day, Dan, hope it went well. We won’t expect a reply for at least this week, in which case I think we all hope that no news is good news.?

Good luck!

Good luck with the new business Steve!